How Rude! #3

In the last section of the book, I read most of the “Talking Headiquette”, “You Are What You Wear”, and some of “AHH, AHH, AHH - CHOOOOOO.” “Talking Headiquette” was very useful to me because I am not a very good at talking to other people I am not familiar with. I wanted to read this to learn how to start a good conversation with someone that I don’t know or just met. Normally, when I try to create a conversation, the hardest part for me, is to start the conversation. The book says to start the conversation by asking an open ended question such as “Wow this band is good. Where do you think they’re from?” Instead of asking a yes or no question like, “Do you like this band?” This is the reason why people have conversations. A conversation is made of two people so you want both of the persons at an equal amount of talking. You can find out someone’s personality after your first conversation with them. If they are cocky and overpowering, they will try to take over the conversation, but if they are quiet and don’t converse, then they are most likely boring or aren’t interested in talking to you, or possibly just very shy.

Although I don’t believe that what you wear describes who you are, I still think that there are guidelines that people should consider for different occasions. You will be amazed about how many people don’t know what to wear on certain events such as a wedding, funeral or just a casual party. The book instructs to first think about the event. Will it be casual, semiformal, or formal? Most people don’t have a problem with formal because it’ pretty straight forward. Men wear shirt and tie with nice dress pants and maybe suit jacket. Ladies can wear a dress or a suit usually with high heels. Depending who you are, casual can mean a lot of things. Some teens may think casual is a comfortable pair of blue jeans with a well fitted T-shirt, sneakers and maybe a baseball hat. Others may think casual is a black jacket with spikes on its shoulders, underneath, a black T-shirt with skulls all over it, black tight jeans, black sneakers and since they love the color black, they have a black backpack. Nothings wrong with either of these because it is truly your personal preference. But the only thing that is troublesome is the person’s image. The first teen described may just be an average school boy that has average grades and plays on the JV soccer team. The other one may have a 4.5 GPA and plays for the varsity baseball team. But when you look at them together, a person would most likely think the exact opposite. I am not trying to stereotype but I believe that image helps.